Comments on: Being Your Best Self http://forgeover.com/articles/2009/07/07/being-your-best-self Boldly bucking convention and common sense so you don't have to. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:00:09 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Justin http://forgeover.com/articles/2009/07/07/being-your-best-self/comment-page-1#comment-379 Justin Tue, 10 May 2011 08:04:37 +0000 http://www.forgeover.com/?p=249#comment-379 <p>Enjoyed your article about becoming your best self. My wife and I are parents of 3 kids ages 4 and under, so I found your parenting experiences to be awesome. Here's a post that I wrote that has some similar ideas: http://wealthhabit.com/blog/becoming-your-best-self-by-learning-to-focus</p> Enjoyed your article about becoming your best self. My wife and I are parents of 3 kids ages 4 and under, so I found your parenting experiences to be awesome. Here’s a post that I wrote that has some similar ideas: http://wealthhabit.com/blog/becoming-your-best-self-by-learning-to-focus

]]> By: QUIET FEET: Harmony Restored http://forgeover.com/articles/2009/07/07/being-your-best-self/comment-page-1#comment-130 QUIET FEET: Harmony Restored Mon, 11 Jan 2010 05:15:54 +0000 http://www.forgeover.com/?p=249#comment-130 <p>[...] Sunday is Coffee Day, and I wouldn’t trade it, so I bucked up and prepared. I wanted to be my best self but I wasn’t. I was, in fact, a shadow of my best self. I was following the kids around [...]</p> [...] Sunday is Coffee Day, and I wouldn’t trade it, so I bucked up and prepared. I wanted to be my best self but I wasn’t. I was, in fact, a shadow of my best self. I was following the kids around [...]

]]> By: Jess http://forgeover.com/articles/2009/07/07/being-your-best-self/comment-page-1#comment-54 Jess Wed, 08 Jul 2009 17:48:32 +0000 http://www.forgeover.com/?p=249#comment-54 <p>I love this. I too have that deeply seeded anger when Reed causes pain to a dear loved one (alive or not) and sympathize with your frustration. I have asked myself "Are you insane?" when I say such things as "please keep your hands to yourself" or "teeth are not eat people". It doesn't reflect how deeply I want to discourage that behavior. I love the concept of being your best self. I'm going to think more on how I can encourage our family to be our best. Thanks Tucker!</p> I love this. I too have that deeply seeded anger when Reed causes pain to a dear loved one (alive or not) and sympathize with your frustration. I have asked myself “Are you insane?” when I say such things as “please keep your hands to yourself” or “teeth are not eat people”. It doesn’t reflect how deeply I want to discourage that behavior. I love the concept of being your best self. I’m going to think more on how I can encourage our family to be our best. Thanks Tucker!

]]> By: Elizabeth http://forgeover.com/articles/2009/07/07/being-your-best-self/comment-page-1#comment-53 Elizabeth Wed, 08 Jul 2009 13:46:14 +0000 http://www.forgeover.com/?p=249#comment-53 <p>I've actually tried asking Adriana, "Are you insane?" It may not have been one of my best parenting moments, but it did get her mimicking it back to me, so that it sounded like I had a little bitty Jon Stewart on my hands, which got us all laughing. And once we're all laughing things have to get better.</p> <p>I like the idea of thinking of "my best self." When we are having a rough day here, I know I do much better if I can remember not to think about what Adriana can do differently but what <em>I</em> can do. How can I made it easier for her to behave nicely? What does she need from me that I'm not giving (and that it's possible for me to give)? Of course, there are plenty of days when I don't realize that I need to stop and ask those questions until I have time to myself at the end of the day when I am no longer focused on just getting through. But usually then I can promise myself to be my better self tomorrow and to think about what I need to do to make the next day a good day.</p> <p>Thanks for making me think about this. I'm not sure Adriana's quite at the age where I can talk to her about her best self and have her understand, but I like thinking about the things that I can do and what may work as she gets older.</p> I’ve actually tried asking Adriana, “Are you insane?” It may not have been one of my best parenting moments, but it did get her mimicking it back to me, so that it sounded like I had a little bitty Jon Stewart on my hands, which got us all laughing. And once we’re all laughing things have to get better.

I like the idea of thinking of “my best self.” When we are having a rough day here, I know I do much better if I can remember not to think about what Adriana can do differently but what I can do. How can I made it easier for her to behave nicely? What does she need from me that I’m not giving (and that it’s possible for me to give)? Of course, there are plenty of days when I don’t realize that I need to stop and ask those questions until I have time to myself at the end of the day when I am no longer focused on just getting through. But usually then I can promise myself to be my better self tomorrow and to think about what I need to do to make the next day a good day.

Thanks for making me think about this. I’m not sure Adriana’s quite at the age where I can talk to her about her best self and have her understand, but I like thinking about the things that I can do and what may work as she gets older.

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